Man Meets Girlfriend’s Father For The First Time Only To Discover They Share A Huge Secret!
When you’re in a relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend you know things are getting serious when you decide to introduce them to your parents. It kind of means things are moving forward and perhaps this one is the ONE.
The meeting is usually done over a lunch with lots of appetisers and alcohol. There are awkward moments, bad jokes and nervous laughter as both parties size each other up. There really is no way to make it easy or pain free. It’s just something that needs to happen so we can all move on with our lives.
Imagine then for one moment that the boyfriend you bring home actually knows your dad. Sounds okay right? I mean surely that would make thing less awkward? Right?
Ordinarily yes. But not in this case. In this story the boyfriend knows his girlfriend’s father well. We mean really well. Like intimately well!! You follow?
Yes! Exactly what you’re thinking! The boyfriend SLEPT with his girlfriend’s dad five years ago during a bi-sexual phase he was going through. And to make matters worse the poor guy was planning to ask for the daughter’s hand in marriage before he realised just how awkward this family dynamic was going to be.
The anonymous man wrote the above letter to an advice column in The Guardian, where he explained that he “used to sleep around with pretty much everyone that came along, including other men.”
Which is perfectly fine of course…except when one of those random men could end up being your father in law, who hasn’t said anything to his wife or daughter about it.
So now this guy wants to propose to his girlfriend, is in love with her, and is wondering if he can get past the history he shares with her father.
Columnist Pamela Stephenson Connolly told him she doesn’t really see a way this could work out.
Another person wrote in saying the daughter needs to know so she can make up her own mind. “My opinion (and I’m sure many will disagree) is that you should tell her and let her make the decision. It’s unfair on her to just walk away, it’s unfair on you for her father to expect you to (and I suspect that he’s doing so in a pathetic attempt to avoid his own guilt). Put everything in the open, she may well understand your past, she may not, but don’t make the choice for her, she may well want to spend the rest of her life with you don’t just walk away and deny her that.”
While others believe the dad needs to have his secret exposed and that the girlfriend has a right to know why her boyfriend is walking away. “So the dad gets to walk away scot-free while his daughter gets her heart broken? Sounds like a right scumbag. Walk away like he told you, sure, but not without telling his wife why you’re leaving,” they commented.
Not everyone agreed though. Some believe that it was just a once off and shouldn’t be mentioned. That it’s a secret that can stay in the past and doesn’t have to be revealed. I don’t know about you, but I think I would want to know if my dad and my boyfriend had been intimate. Also I’m pretty sure my mum would want to know too!
“Keep it to yourself, and tell the father you will do that,” another person advised. “To do anything else risks too much upset. Just be sure that you will be able to keep to it.”
What do you think? Is this a secret too big to keep? Would you want to know or would you rather be oblivious to the fact and just carry on as normal?