Are Mums Really As Tired As They Make Out To Be?

Are Mums Really As Tired As They Make Out To Be?

You know what the problem is with blanket statements? The fact that they’re blanket statements! It assumes everyone is in the same position and dealing with the same issues in life. That’s not how the real world works and we know it. You simply can’t go around generalising about any one group of people- especially parents- and even more so mothers!

Imagine our shock when we came across an article that stated MUMS REALLY AREN’T THAT TIRED! Like those words were actually typed up on someone’s screen and published. And not just by anyone but by a woman who is a mum herself!

Here’s how it starts: “I may be ousted from the Moms Club becase of this one, and if they don’t kick me out, well then surely my girlfriends will ostracise me from our inner circle. Why? Well, because I am about to drop a #truthbomb that is going to lead to so much grief. Here we go: Moms really aren’t that tired.”

The writer then tries to make it sound better by saying “Don’t get me wrong. Sure, we are tired; we are really flippin’ tired. We are fudging’ exhausted; however, we are not always as tired as we make ourselves out to be.”

Excuse me, what? We are not always as tired as we make ourselves out to be? Are you kidding? Do you think we pretend to be exhausted? To you think we lie about our lack of sleep? Are the bags under our eyes a figment of our imagination? And besides, how on earth can you claim that all MUMS AREN’T THAT TIRED? All mums aren’t even in the same position for you to be making these assumptions.

There are single mums, widowers, working mums, stay at home mums, mums with kids that have special needs, mums that have 10 kids, mums that have 1 kid, mums that have no support, mums that are on the dole, mums that work night shift….do I really need to continue?

No. But this writer does… “Yes, I have children that wake up throughout the night; but, most of the time, a quick sip of milk or a transfer to my bed will suffice. Yes, it can be rough when it hits the “bewitching hour,” and nobody wants to take a bath or eat their green beans; but, those stressful hours most definitely make me more appreciative of the less stressful ones.”

And sorry Samantha, it’s not the bewitching hour at our place, it’s 100 percent the witching hour here!

“Yes, bedtime can be a struggle when there is one of me and three of them; but, how strong it makes me feel to know that I have enough love inside of my heart for each one of them, equally. It feels damn powerful to be in possession of so much love.”
You know what feels even more powerful? To get a decent night’s sleep for once without having to be woken every few hours to tend to a child. Or having to rush out the door for work in the morning with only three hours sleep. No amount of ‘love’ is going to help overcome that exhaustion. Am I right?!

The writer then goes on to say how ‘boring’ life would be if ‘everything went according to plan.’ Are you kidding me right now? Yeah real boring, Sharon! I’ll take it any time over having to deal with toddler tantrums in supermarket aisles.

“Yes, it is a struggle for me to manage a clingy toddler with a preschooler who tends to throw tantrums every single time we pick up his older sister from school; but, how boring would afternoon pickup be if at least one of us didn’t lose our shiitake. Quite uneventful, I think, and us mommas, well, we aren’t made for standing around while everything goes according to plan.”

“So, am I tired, you ask? Hell yes, I’m tired, but I’m not that tired,” the writer concludes.

It comes as no surprise to anyone that following publication of this article the comments that followed were swift and to the point. Mothers were not happy. Check out some of the comments below:

Speak for yourself I’m tired asf.

I think she forgot that the majority of moms are working moms and they have to get the kids dressed, fed and out the door in time to go to various schools so that she can get to work on time and then put in a full day’s work and get home just in time to fix dinner, clean up, help with homework and bath before crashing into bed just to do it all over again the next day.

I don’t know this woman but I kind of hate her. I love how she’s decided that because SHE’S not tired that all moms must not be that tired. I’d say I want to punch her in the face but after this weekend, I’m too fucking tired.

Umm YOU aren’t that tired. How about we don’t speak for others. I’m pretty tired but realize I have a lot of things that help offset my struggles that some women don’t. You have a lot of privilege too and you seem unaware that others don’t.

I’m not really down with anyone that want’s to throw a sector of people into one category. You have no right to speak for MOMS. You are one mom that isn’t THAT tired, congrats to you, there are probably far more moms that ARE that tired and you just triggered them hardcore… Not sure about your well rested self, but I don’t like making tired people angry. Tired people are irritable and violent…but not THAT violent.

What do you think? Is it true? Are we simply not as tired as we make out? Have our lives been a complete lie?!

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