Woman Wants To Break Up With Fiancé After Discovering Engagement Ring Had Fake Diamond!
A wedding proposal usually involves some champagne, a romantic dinner and a ring of some sort. The latter is traditionally of the diamond kind and hopefully a style that the fiancé approves of. Can you imagine the pressure the one proposing is under? Will she like the ring, will it fit, is the diamond big enough? So much to worry about!!
Imagine then discovering that the ring your fiancé proposed to you with, is in fact a fake diamond and not a real one like you initially thought. And to make matters worse, you find out by chance when you go to get it insured.
This is exactly the scenario an anonymous woman was in when she wrote into an advice column after discovering her fiancé was dishonest. In fact she’s so upset by the whole thing that she’s considering breaking up with him over the ‘fake diamond’ incident.
Here’s the letter she wrote to Natalie Bencivenga, saying how embarrassed she was.
DEAR NATALIE: I recently got engaged and went to have my ring insured. He looked at my diamond and told me that it was actually a cubic zirconium. I was truly embarrassed. My fiance had surprised me with the ring and I cannot believe that he did this. When I confronted him about it, he just shrugged it off, saying a real diamond ring that size would’ve cost him a small fortune and what’s the difference, anyway? He said that the ring looks real, and my girlfriends will never know. But I don’t think he understands why I’m upset. I am upset because I feel lied to. I am ready to call the whole thing off. What do you think I should do? –FAKED OUT
The fiancé seems more upset by the fact her partner lied to her rather than the fact the ring was fake. And while some may call her materialistic, Bencivenga says the woman’s feelings are totally justified.
Others however thought the columnist’s advice was harsh and that there shouldn’t be any shame in wearing a cubic zirconium.
“What’s wrong with wearing a cubic zirconium anyway? I’ve got one and love it!” said one woman. While another felt for the husband saying- “Maybe the guy couldn’t afford a real one and knew how much it meant to his fiancé. I say good on him!”
But isn’t the problem here the deception rather than the cubic zirconium? I mean if he couldn’t afford a real diamond I’m pretty sure his fiancé would’ve understood if he tried to explain. Perhaps they could’ve come to an agreement on a cheaper stone and gone shopping for the ring together?
“He should have told you and not shrugged it off as no big deal. Imagine how he would handle conflict and important matters in your marriage bigger than the ring. Re-evaluate your relationship at this point,” offered one.
Another person agreed. “That he blew her off just makes you wonder. Take your time and think about it. Tell him it isn’t just about the ring being a fake it is his deception. If he scoffs at you, tries & turn it on you or calls you any name then reconsider the relationship.”
“He was intentionally deceitful,” someone else wrote. “He even allowed you to go get the ring insured, fully knowing that you’d be embarrassed and he’d be ‘found out’ yet he didn’t fess up ahead of time. Lying by omission is still lying — and I’d really consider if that’s someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.”
What do you think? How would you feel if you had been lied to about your engagement ring? Would you care?