Bride’s Mum Writes Horribly Offensive Letter About Her Daughter’s Maid Of Honour
Wedding planning can be a stressful affair, especially when the families get involved and want to have a say in how the loved-up couple’s big day should go. This sort of pressure has seen many a Bridezilla emerge from under the gauzy veil to state her opinion about exactly what she wants for her big day.
This is not about a Bridezilla though, this little tidbit that has the Twitterverse abuzz with horror and amazement is about a Mumzilla. And a particularly callous and horrid one at that.
This anonymous mother of the bride wrote in to the Dear Prudence advice column, asking the popular agony aunt for her opinion regarding her daughter’s best friend and maid of honour, Katie:
My 27-year-old daughter and her best friend, Katie, have been best friends since they were 4. Katie practically grew up in our house and is like a daughter to me.
My daughter recently got engaged to her fiancé and announced that Katie would be the maid of honour (Katie’s boyfriend is also a good friend of my future son-in-law).
The problem is that Katie walks with a pretty severe limp due to a birth defect (not an underlying medical issue). She has no problem wearing high heels and has already been fitted for the dress, but I still think it will look unsightly if she’s in the wedding procession limping ahead of my daughter.
I mentioned this to my daughter and suggested that maybe Katie could take video or hand out programs (while sitting) so she doesn’t ruin the aesthetic aspect of the wedding.
My daughter is no longer speaking to me (we were never that close), but this is her big wedding and I want it to be perfect. All of the other bridesmaids will look gorgeous walking down the aisle with my daughter. Is it wrong to have her friend sit out?
It astounds me that there are people like this mother of the bride out there. Honestly, what sort of enormous douchebaguette do you have to be to even think these words, never mind say them out loud then seek validation for your twisted standpoint from the internet when they didn’t have the intended result??
Never fear though, dear readers, as Prudence sought to set this anonymous Mumzilla right with her stern words and sensible advice:
I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around this letter. I encourage you to reread it and to ask yourself that time-honoured question, “Do I sound like a villain in a Reese Witherspoon movie?”
You are, presumably, sympathetic to your own situation and are invested in making sure that you come across as reasonable and as caring as possible, and yet you have written a letter indicting yourself at every turn.
This girl is “like a daughter” to you, and yet you want to shove her to the side of your other daughter’s wedding just because she walks with a limp. Your daughter’s wedding will be perfect with Katie as a full and honoured member of the bridal party. A limp is not a fly in the ointment; it’s a part of Katie’s life.
It is not only wrong to have asked your daughter to consider excluding her best friend over this — it is ableist and cruel, and it speaks to a massive failure of empathy, compassion, and grace on your part. You must and should apologize to your daughter immediately, and I encourage you to profoundly reconsider the orientation of your heart.
Once a screenie of this takedown hit Twitter, people had opinions of their own to share.
My favorite part is that she said Katie was “like a daughter to me,” b/c apparently, to her, that means “not that close and I’m mean to her”
— David Harris (@Hero_Complex) September 6, 2017
Though one presumes not with a limp.
— Logotrix (@logotrix) September 7, 2017
Yeah, NO part of me is surprised or suspicious re: this woman existing and expecting validation. They’re everywhere.
— Nicole Cliffe (@Nicole_Cliffe) September 7, 2017
Alarmingly, she’s right. Women like this are everywhere.
Who says this lady gets a say in who is in her daughter’s bridal party anyway? Her horribly offensive letter seeking validation is clearly not the worst things she’s ever done — her choice of words in her letter gives away a whole underlying story that we’re sure would make for a drama blockbuster on the big screen: “we were never that close”.
Well shit, lady, I wonder why!!
Source: Dear Prudence and Giphy